75 per cent of women say they can’t orgasm. Could having a full bladder be the solution?
For some, reaching climax during sex is difficult.
Reports suggest that 75 per cent of women can never reach orgasm from penetration alone, and 10-15 per cent can never climax under any circumstances.
It can be a frustrating issue for both parties involved, but it’s not something that can’t be resolved.
Everyone’s heard of the traditional methods – increasing foreplay, using toys, relaxing the muscles. But what if getting turned on could occur another way?
Having a full bladder might just be the answer. Research indicates that having sex while needing to pee can actually increase the feelings of arousal, which can help women orgasm.
Why does this happen?
Sexual health doctor and sexologist Celeste Holbrook from Texas says it’s all to do with the close proximity of the clitoris, vagina and urethra.
“A full bladder can push onto some of the more sensitive parts of the genitalia, such as the clitoris and its branches. Many women use stimulation in one or more of these areas to stimulate the others,” Holbrook told Shape Magazine.
Additionally, the G-spot is located near the entrance to the bladder, and if the bladder is fuller and pushing on this, it can contribute to heightened sensation and sexual pleasure.
Further, holding in pee increases the blood flow to the internal clitoris, which is the largest part of the clitoris, located inside the pelvis (so it actually can’t be seen), which in turn can increase arousal.
This occurs as the area warms up and the muscles are activated, resulting in increased sensation.
Is it safe to do?
Some reports suggest that holding in pee can have adverse effects on the body, such as weakening the bladder muscles over time or increasing the likelihood of UTI’s.
But holding in pee occasionally during sex generally shouldn’t be anything to worry about.
As a general rule, if it feels good, it should be okay. But if holding in pee over a long period of time starts to become painful or uncomfortable, it’s a sure sign to head to the bathroom.
Further, the feeling of fulness isn’t actually the body’s signal for arousal, but rather the one that simply says it is time to urinate. As such, it’s a technique one shouldn’t practice every time they have sex, says staff sexologist Dr Carol Queen from Good Vibrations.
What if I pee during sex?
Practising Kegel exercises can reduce the chance of accidently letting go during intercourse.
Kegels are exercises that help strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can help prevent or control urinary incontinence.
As an added bonus, they can also lead to more intense orgasms, says sexologist Emily Morse, who also hosts a podcast called Sex With Emily.
To start, contract and squeeze the muscles you would use to stop the flow of urine. Those muscles are the pelvic floor muscles, and they also contract during an orgasm. Try holding this squeeze and count to 10, then repeat. A Kegel exercise is as easy at that.
Strengthening and toning these cannot only prevent urine from leaking, but it also increases sensation, making it easier to climax.
Just don’t forget to pee after sex
If holding the bladder is something one is interested in, it is still important to remember to pee after intercourse is finished.
Doing so helps remove bacteria in the urethra, which can help reduce the chance of UTIs and infection.
