Valentine’s Day after a breakup can still be a lot of fun if you prepare in advance and organise some self-love fun.
No more cheesy rom-coms, huddled under blankets with a family-sized box of chocolates and an even bigger box of tissues. This Valentine’s Day isn’t about wallowing, it’s about reclaiming .
Just like in any Bridget Jones film, Bridget always bounces back. And this year, it’s your turn.
Instead of cringing at the calendar or feeling that familiar sting of dread, shift the narrative. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to revolve around candlelit dinners or over-the-top romance. It can be a celebration of love in its many forms, especially the one you give yourself.
This is your chance to redefine what love looks like in YOUR life, outside of the clichés and the mushy stuff.
Here’s how to enjoy Valentine’s Day after a breakup.
Start the Day by Moving Your Body
The first and easiest way to start your day on the right track and in a good mood is to move your body! For today treat yourself to something out of the ordinary.
Maybe a morning pilates reformer class at a nice studio. Or a Yoga Flow at a Yoga Loft. Even just a nice coastal walk along the beach or a nearby nature reserve.
Whatever you choose, wake up and make this the first activity of the day, to get you feeling yourself and on the right track.
Treat Yourself to Your Favourite Breakfast
Skip the rushed coffee and toast. This is the morning to make something special .
Love cooking? Set yourself the time this morning to make something gourmet. Try out a new recipe, and buy the ingredients the day before so it’s ready to go. Put on your favorite music and dance around the kitchen.
Short on time or not a big fan of cooking? Think of fresh pastries from your favourite bakery. Maybe heading down to your favourite cafe and trying something you love or something new off the menu.
This morning think, good coffee in your best mug, or a breakfast you’d normally save for “a special occasion. Let’s romanticise the hell out of this morning.
Plan the Middle of Your Day with Activity, Whatever Your Into
Think about how YOU would want to spend this day. Maybe that means reading your new book on the beach, catching a tan. Maybe going window shopping at your favourite boutiques.
Stuck for ideas? Here are a few ways to spend the day:
- Read a book by the ocean or in your favourite park
- Go window shopping or treat yourself to one meaningful purchase
- Visit a gallery, museum, or creative space you’ve been meaning to see
- Book a pottery, painting, or creative workshop
- Take yourself out for lunch somewhere new, solo dates are underrated
- Meet a friend for a long coffee or sunset walk
- Do something spontaneous, just because you can!!!
Get Creative (and Out of Your Head)
Heartbreak lives in the mind baby, creativity pulls you back into the present!
Painting, pottery, clay workshops, writing, or even a DIY project at home can be incredibly grounding. There’s freedom in making something purely for yourself, with no expectations attached.
- Try a paint-and-sip night with friends or solo
- Start a breakup journal or write letters you’ll never send
- Make a vision board for the year ahead
- Take a film camera or phone and do a solo photo walk
- Rework or upcycle clothing you already own
- Create a playlist that matches your current era
- Try a floral arranging class or make your own bouquet
- Bake something from scratch, bread, cake, or something nostalgic
- DIY a piece of home décor (candles, ceramics, wall art)
- Write a short story or poem purely for yourself
- Take a creative class you’ve always wanted to try but never had time for
Celebrate the Love you have in Its Other Forms
Friends, Community & Chosen Family
Valentine’s Day doesn’t belong solely to couples. Meet a friend for a long lunch, organise a Galentine’s dinner, or simply spend time with someone who makes you laugh!
Sometimes the most meaningful relationships are the ones that remind you who you are, not who you were trying to be for someone else.
So create an intention for this valentines day to see at least one loved one !
Just Cause Your Single Doesn’t Mean Valentine’s Day is Cancelled This Year….
It may seem like Valentine’s Day loses its meaning after a breakup, but really all it needs to do is be redefined.
Love exists in the rituals you create, the joy you make, and the way you show up for yourself when no one else is watching. Let this be the year you stop dreading the day and start using it as a reminder: you are already whole!
Enjoy your special day to yourself this Valentine’s Day. You deserve it!
