In a UK wide stress survey last year by the Mental Health Foundation, almost 3/4 of adults (74%) of participants has been so stressed in the 12 months they felt unable to cope.
The title of the report was Stress, Are We Coping.
Well it seems barely at best. Stress has become an expected part of life for most of us. But what are we stressing about? And as one of my favourite self-help guru’s Louise Hay says, whatever we are stressing about is actually just a thought, and our thoughts CAN be changed.
At Bondi Beauty, our target market is women under 35, and these are the top 5 stresses women ask me about:
I have found having a positive body image relates more to my self management and my own state of mind. So if I am exercising regularly for example, I feel much better about my body than if I am not. If I am eating healthy, balanced meals, I also feel better about my body.
Getting to know how to make the best of your body in terms of what you wear can also have an impact on how you feel.
2) Finding your life partner: This is a tricky one, and the reality is, you have plenty of time. It’s not easy for women if they want to have children, as there is a finite time. We can’t have a child at 50, correction we can, but having had my own twins in my early 30’s and having struggled physically with the sheer work, having a baby after 40 would be my idea of a nightmare. But that’s just me.
Getting to know yourself and loving yourself is the best way to bring the right person into your life, and manifesting that person can also help. I believe in meeting lots of new people to work out who and what it is you want in a personal relationship.
And be open to people who are not your type. Many people I know have ended up sending their life with people very different to the person they imagined they would spend their life with.
3) Finances: Money is important, and anyone who tells you anything different has either never managed their own and not been truly financially independent or has been extremely fortunate. Money is one of those things you don’t have to worry about until you don’t have any.
But in your 20’s and early 30’s you have time to get ahead. I always advise young people to scrimp and save to get a deposit together for a property – almost any property – as young as you can.
Property works on an economic cycle that over time almost always inevitably increases, so as long as you are invested, the value of your asset will too.
Managing money and sticking to a budget is also critical, and mastering this at a young age will serve you well into the future.
4) That dream job: In our 20s’ we are in a hurry. We want that dream job now. But everything takes time, and I think of life as climbing a staircase to our dreams. It takes time and is challenging, but one thing leads to another. Every now and again there is a plateau and life gives you something you want. But only if you continue to put one foot in front of the other and move forwards.
Knowing where you want to go and what you dream is is half the battle.
5) Travel or career?: This is a tricky one and really pertains to your age and your life stage. I will almost always say travel, as travel gives you a different perspective on the world, on yourself and on your future.
I have met some of the greatest people in my life when travelling, and had some of the greatest adventures. I think one of the greatest things anyone can do in their 20s is to work and live overseas. Home – wherever that is – will always be there.
Travel and career and relationships and finance don’t have to be exclusive either. You can push your career ahead by working in the right job overseas, your partner can visit and you can create lifetime memories and experiences.
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